It's the end of another year and we would all agree a rather tough one at that. You're ready to brush off 2009. But not so fast.
Before you can move forward, you'll want to acknowledge the baggage that you're still dragging along or it could wind up cluttering your life and any shiny new plans you have in 2010.
No matter how out of shape you think you are most of us can do one set of ten reps. So, I've come up with ten things that you can do in the waning days of 2009 in ten minutes. Many of you will finish them in under ten!
Clutter #1: Earliest insult to you in 2009.
Remember the time your colleague embarrassed you in that meeting in front of all those people? Now, think of one thing you can laugh about. Come on, you have to admit that this guy's haircut is what put him in such a foul mood in the first place.
You're so over it.
Clutter #2: Earliest insult to another person in 2009.
Remember the time you embarrassed that consultant in front of the client? She became flustered during the presentation and wasn't able to convince higher ups that your team's project needed the funding.
Apologize to her as if she's standing right in front of you. While you're at it, why not apologize to your team as well since they were forced to work on that other project.
Promise yourself to feel less threatened in 2010 and to learn from those who possess different skills than you.
Clutter #3: The best "I'm pissed" email that you saved, but didn't send.
You know the email. It was the one that you dashed off to yourself in the heat of anger and saved as a template in the "P.O." folder because of the language prowess and powerful use of verbs.
Go ahead. Re-read it once more, then delete the folder and clean out your recycling bin.
Clutter #4: The best "I'm pissed" email that you accidentally sent.
Oh yeah. The one that was distributed by more people in a single minute than will take you the time to remember it, blush profusely (again), and remind yourself to write these emails at home with yourself in the "To" line.
Unless you were fired over the incident, it's time to laugh at your "human-ness" and let it go. If you did lose your job over it, it's time to forgive yourself, but still let it go.
Clutter #5: The worst outfit you own (even for the best of intentions).
You know the one. Your ex (spouse, S.O, etc.) bought for you and you can't seem to give it away. It's your way of remembering a relationship that was probably not very good in the first place. The problem is that a) it was never your color b) you've gained 15 lbs or c) the "ex" was known for h/her bad taste in clothing.
Remove the item from your closet or drawer. Place it in a bag to be donated to someone who will feel blessed by it.
Clutter #6: The best boss ever, now replaced by the worst.
Just when you were looking forward to working with the best leader at your company in 2010, she was promoted and replaced by an inexperienced manager who never smiles and BTW knows nothing about your business. Already, you're feeling a dark cloud rising over 2010.
Write down one good thing about your new manager. Try.
Then scribble on a piece of paper: "Jan 2010 - to stay or not to stay". You can answer that question next month.
Clutter #7: The idea you didn't act on in 2000.
Yes, the one that you've listed every year for the last decade. The feeling that continues to hold you back from acting on any of the other great ideas you've had since then.
Let yourself down--easy. You weren't ready to act on this idea a decade ago no matter how prepared you think you were at the time.
Instead, why not make a one-minute list of all the ways you're now ready to act on your best ideas in 2010.
Clutter #8: The fear you've outgrown (but won't let go).
You've hung on to this fear since grade school when your sad, unmotivated, and disgruntled teacher labeled you incompetent at _______, ________, ________, or ________.
Fear is a feeling that somehow you're not good enough. Tying Trying something doesn't mean that you have to be perfect at it. You can now choose to have some fun tackling any of these things (again).
Then, forgive your teacher for not feeling a passion for teaching and yourself for feeling the need to hang on to this.
Clutter #9: One message that you didn't heed in 2009.
Messages come to us in many different forms--people we meet (even for fleeting moments) to books that we read or conversations we might overhear.
Synchronicity of events and coincidences are often the proverbial message in a bottle.
Heed one message that you didn't act on at the time by acknowledging it now. Then, promise yourself to listen to and trust your intuition more in 2010 so that this muscle becomes one of the strongest ones you possess.
Clutter #10: The love that you didn't feel.
The year 2009 was tough for a lot of people for many different reasons. But even in the midst of pain, you can probably remember one experience that made you feel good about yourself even if, at the time, you didn't acknowledge the feeling.
Remember it now.